By Darshana Suresh
So many of us at the end of the Day ponder on this question – Who am I? What is the purpose of this life? Am I seeing myself change each day? Am I living the best of my life? Am I contributing to the world around me?
Sometimes these thoughts give us a sense of insecurity about our lives so much so that we feel that void between where we are now and who we want to be. And to bridge this void we check out videos that inspire us, remind us about our qualities and how we can be better. Or we ask someone for help or to mentor us.
The word Mentor evolved to mean trusted advisor, friend, teacher, and wise person. History offers many examples of helpful mentoring relationships: Socrates and Plato, Haydn and Beethoven, Freud and Jung, Moses and Joshua, Krishna and Arjuna, Confucius and Lao Tzu and the list continues. However, when one is not able to find a mentor or a guide, they have a feeling that there is no way they can take the next step towards success. But the question we need to ask ourselves is: Who knows us better than ourselves? That belief is the step towards self-mentoring.
How can one self-mentor:
1. Reflection: We all have a unique story, and we have been connecting those dots which leads us to where we are now. When we step back and reflect it becomes easier for us to keep pace with our goals and ambitions and the way you can do this is
a) Take a sheet of paper and list down all the experiences coming from your failures which has shaped and molded you into a better person. Some experiences can be painful, but instead of questioning why it happened to you, just witness the event.
- The events which have taught you lessons, connect these events and reflect on how these have helped you and express gratitude that they happened and made you a better person.
- Next step is to draft all the good experiences you have had in two lines and as you recall rekindle that event happening right in front of your eyes
- Now put a smile in your face and feel proud of these accomplishments and express gratitude.
c) Connect both these events and see what are those dots connecting to, it will help you understand yourself as a person, your behavioral type, a role you can be good at, some clarity on where you are progressing towards.
d) If these makes you feel blank take a personality test and see in which quadrant, you fit in the best – https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
2. Dream Journaling: After you have your personality and the roles you can fit-in listed in, you can envision who you want to be, which role excites you the most, the roles you are passionate about and write down only 3 roles you envision yourself in. Ask this question – “What am I good at and what am I passionate about?” and devise your goals in a way that you encompass all the skills and the passion.
3) Inspiration: After you have your 3 roles ready, Visit the professional networking sites like LinkedIn or google and check out people who are working in those roles and understand what it takes to reach there. The certifications you can take or how you can level up your experience. Chat with them to better understand what it takes reach up to where they are right now.
To end with, Self-mentorship helps you understand yourself better and creates a path forward. Also, it gives you a sense of realization that we are driven by our own unique experiences, and how can
we keep getting better each day.